Caring Days: The first step to saving your relationship
There comes a time in every relationship when exchanges between partners become increasingly negative. Conflict and avoidance both increase, and this can lead to feeling trapped, unhappy and more like roommates than romantic partners. Each …
What is Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria?
What is rejection sensitivity dysphoria, and how does it show up in relationships? For individuals with ADHD or ADD, rejection-sensitive dysphoria (RSD) manifests as an intense emotional sensitivity and response triggered by the perception of …
Love Laboratory
Way back in the 1980s, mathematician and psychologist Dr. John Gottman persuaded the fine folk at the University of Washington to build a little apartment. A little place in the woods where couples could stay …
Bids For Connection
One important factor in a successful relationship is how people pay attention to each other. Choosing to turn towards, rather than turning away or against, each other’s bids for connection help to establish a foundation for …
Your Partner Is Not A Mind Reader
Many times I have had couples come to counseling because they are having misunderstandings or unhealthy communication styles. So many times I hear “we have communication problems.” And they are right. Couples usually enter into …
Tips for Navigating Couple Conflict
Most couples come to therapy at their tipping points; when something has happened, when they are in crisis, and when they need help and tools to fix it! Until then, they may stumble through marrital …
